How to create your own self confidence and happiness.

Tip 1: What you focus on makes a difference. What are you focusing on?

Tip 2: Your attitude towards your life and everything around you makes the difference between contentment and dissatisfaction. Is your attitude negative or positive?

Tip 3: Developing gratitude for what you do have instead of focusing on what you don’t have, is a source of great happiness. List 10 things to be thankful for.

Tip 4. Kindness can lead to confidence. When you are kind to someone you can feel good. When you feel good your confidence increases. Who will you be kind to today?

Tip 5. Look at the problems others have. If you feel miserable or are thinking badly of yourself, ask yourself, “Would you rather be living in Iraq or where you are?” Always keep your own problems in perspective for greater happiness.

Tip 6. Say thank you. Thank the people around you for the kind things they do for you. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, they may just have made you a cup of tea or called you. Give thanks. Write down ten things you can thank people for today.

Tip 7. Generosity without expecting anything in return can lead to confidence. When you are generous to someone you can feel good. When you feel good your confidence increases. Who will you be generous to today?
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1. When you help others you help yourself automatically.

2. Your smile brings happiness to the world around you.

3. People are not perfect and that is perfect.

4. Your heart always sees the truth. Trust it.

5. You can do anything you want. What are your wants?

6. You are living to make this world better. Make the best of yourself.

7. Life is anything without happiness. Do what makes you happy.

8. You will never be completely happy without making others happy.

9. Your fears are illusory. Face your illusions.

10. Gratitude is important. Be thankful for the every moment of your life.

That is just the beginning – add your rules to this list. Let’s make it together!

Here are some inputs on body language that would be of great help to all in their day-to-day life, personally and professionally.

What you say is important, but, What you do is very very important. It has been researched that your body does not lie. Most commonly used body gestures and their meaning.So they would be of help to you.

Arms crossed over chest – Defensiveness or anxiety
Swinging arm – Want to walk away from a situation
Eye blinking – Fast blinking signals stress
Downward gaze – Feeling defeated
Taking notes – Shows interest or involvement
Hand over mouth – Can mean boredom
Arms behind head and leaning back – Looking for power or control
Unbuttoning coat – Openness
Buttoning coat – Feels trapped and wants to leave
Standing with hands behind back – Confidence
Clearing throat- Nervousness
Rubbing back of neck – Defensiveness
Hands flat on table – Ready to agree
Stroking chin – Evaluating or thinking
Foot tapping – Impatience
Rubbing the eye – Doubt or disbelief
Rubbing hands – Anticipation
Tilted head – Interest
Pulling / tugging ear – Indecision

So next time you are communicating be aware of your and the other persons body language and understand what it means.

One Dozen Timeless Ways  to be Happy!

Our passions, expectations, life experiences, and even our personalities all contribute to the level of happiness we experience in our lives. Some find happiness in their careers while others find ways to be happy in their marriages or other relationships

No matter how you define happiness for yourself, there are certain universal and time-proven strategies to bring, and sustain, more happiness into your life. The following one dozen timeless ways to be happy can be adapted and even customized to fit your needs. Over time, these strategies will become positive and life-changing habits that will begin to bring more happiness, joy and peace into your life.

Notice What’s Right
Some of us see the glass as being half-full and others see the glass as half-empty. The next time you are caught in traffic, begin thinking how nice it is to have a few moments to reflect on the day, focus on a problem you have been trying to solve, or brainstorm on your next big idea. The next time you get in the slow line at the grocery store, take the opportunity to pick up a tabloid magazine and do some œguilty pleasure? reading. Take all that life throws out you and reframe it with what’s right about the situation. At the end of the day, you will more content, at peace and happy. Take the time to begin to notice what’s right and see the world change in front of your eyes.

Be Grateful
How many times do you say the words œthank you,? in a day? How many times do you hear these same words? If you are doing the first thing, saying the œthank yous,? the latter will naturally happen. Learn to be grateful and you will be open to receive an abundance of joy and happiness.

Remember the Kid You Were
Do you remember how to play? I’m not referring to playing a round of golf or a set of tennis. I’m talking about playing like you did when you were a child  a game of tag; leap frog, or street baseball when the bat is a broken broom handle and the bases are the parked cars. One way to find or maintain your happiness is to remember the kid you were and play!

Be Kind
There is no question that by merely watching acts of kindness creates a significant elevation in our moods and increases the desire for us to perform good deeds as well. Kindness is indeed contagious and when we make a commitment to be kind to ourselves and to others we can experience new heights of joy, happiness and enthusiasm for our lives.
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Some people are part of your life, whether you want them there or not. What if you don´t have the warmest of feelings for your boss? Your mother-in-law? Your next-door neighbor?

It´s easy to come up with a mental catalog of all the ways in which that person could change to be less annoying, domineering, passive-aggressive, arrogant, etc.-but the fact is, you can´t change anyone but yourself.

Here are some tips about how to help yourself cultivate more friendly feelings. It´s quite a strain to hide feelings of dislike;  if you can manage to change your feelings, you´ll be much happier. It´s hard, but not impossible.

1. Seek contact. This is a bit counter-intuitive. If you don’t like someone, you probably feel like avoiding that person, but because of the psychological phenomenon known as the mere exposure effect, we tend to like people better the more we see them.

2. Do nice things for that person. “We prefer to see those to whom we do good than those
who do good to us,” as La Rochefoucauld observed.

3. Give that person a brief touch. Subliminal touching, i.e., touching a person so unobtrusively that it´s not noticed, increases people´s sense of well-being and positive feelings.

4. Lighten up. Joke about whatever annoys you, and if you can manage it, laugh about it with that person, or poke fun at your own reaction. Nothing neutralizes bad feelings like a good laugh.
This can be tough, however.

5. Act friendly. We think we act because of the way we feel, but often we feel because of the way we act. So act the way you want to feel. This is uncannily effective-just try it.

6. Resist criticizing that person. When you voice your complaints, they assume a solidity in your mind that´s hard to eliminate. When your thoughts remain unspoken, they can more easily be changed.

7. Remember happy shared experiences. Recalling good times elevates mood and will help warm your feelings.

8. Be grateful. Reflecting on reasons to feel grateful, instead of reasons to be angry or annoyed, will help change your view.   We think we act because of the way we feel, but often we feel because of the way we act.  So act the way you want to feel. This is uncannily effective-just try it.